Let’s get real — too many women are fighting silent battles against themselves. We blame our bodies, our choices, our “should-haves” and “should n’t-haves”… and where does that leave us? Stuck. Burnt out. Worn down. But here’s the truth: forgiveness has to start with YOU.
That’s the message that hit home in one of Spicy Bananas Podcast’s most raw, no-BS conversations yet — featuring intuitive energy healer Terry Christine. If you thought healing was all about yoga mats and good vibes, think again. This episode went deep, and it didn’t hold back.
Why Self-Blame Keeps You Stuck (And How to Break Free)
Terry lays it out: when trauma, hurt, or betrayal happens — especially to young girls and women — the first target of blame is usually ourselves.
- “Maybe it was how I acted.”
- “Maybe my body caused this.”
- “Maybe I should’ve done something different.”
Sound familiar? That inner critic gets loud — and it lingers. The result? You armor up. You shut down. You disconnect from your body. Some women literally change their shape, as Terry puts it, carrying extra weight to feel invisible, to protect themselves from attention they don’t want.
But here’s the game-changer: you can choose to stop blaming yourself. You can choose to forgive. And that first step doesn’t require fancy therapy. It requires courage to say:
“I didn’t cause this. I didn’t deserve this. I forgive myself for carrying the weight of what wasn’t mine.”
The Forgotten Power of the Dinner Table
Remember when families used to actually talk at the dinner table? Terry breaks down why this simple act of gathering and sharing is a key to healing — for you, your partner, and your kids. It’s where messy feelings, hard truths, and breakthroughs happen.
Feeling stuck? Make space for those conversations. Cry if you have to. Laugh if you can. But show up — for yourself and your people.
What Happens When You Don’t Let It Out?
This isn’t just about emotions. This is about your body keeping score. As Terry bluntly puts it, bottling up pain can wreck your health — from thyroid issues to lung problems to sexual disconnection.
Your body remembers what your mind tries to bury.
Spice It Up: Own Your Healing, Own Your Desire
One of the spiciest moments in this episode? Terry unapologetically compared emotional healing to getting to know your body — yes, that way.
Explore. Get curious. Laugh at yourself. Claim your pleasure, claim your healing. Because no one else is going to do it for you.
Your First Step
Forget perfection. Forget waiting for the right moment. Start with gratitude for being aware.
“Thank you, life, for showing me where I’m stuck. Now let’s move.”
Take one small action today — journal, meditate, speak your truth, or pull out that “third party” toy from the closet.
Bottom Line
Healing isn’t clean, quick, or pretty. It’s raw. It’s messy. But it starts when you stop waging war on yourself. Forgiveness begins at home — inside you.
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👉 Terrie Christine on Spicy Bananas – Episode 11